The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our

The attentions of others matter to us because we are …

The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others' appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.

Alain de Botton